"I wanna make sure you're ready, brother. Here it is: Show me the money. Oh-ho-ho! SHOW! ME! THE! MONEY! A-ha-ha! Doesn't it make you feel good just to say that! Say it with me one time!"

“I wanna make sure you’re ready, brother. Here it is: Show me the money. Oh-ho-ho! SHOW! ME! THE! MONEY! A-ha-ha! Doesn’t it make you feel good just to say that! Say it with me one time!”

SHOW THEM THE MONEY!

Nobody will really care about what you say unless you can “show them the money” and you can’t do that unless you can get their attention and you can’t get their attention if you’re worried about what people are thinking about you.  When you worry about what people are thinking you’re focusing on yourself and when you’re focusing on yourself you can’t “show them the money”. Your content is your “money” and if it is of any value people will want it and if you can’t deliver it, in the words of Ivan Drago, “You will lose!”

If you don’t feel comfortable being the center of attention, I have a simple solution for you; don’t speak, don’t write, don’t draw, don’t sing, and don’t dance. As a matter of fact don’t do anything exceptionally well that involves connecting with an audience (like writing a blog or starting a home based business).

Or like belting out a song like Susan Boyle (do you think she cares what people think of her?).

According to Bill Hoogterp, many of the people he has coached agree that the concept of getting over themselves is one of the most valuable pieces of his entire public speaking training program. But they still can’t totally let go of the uneasy feeling that they are being judged by their audience. I’m actually preoccupied with the feeling that my audience might be judging me right now. But you know what? It doesn’t really matter because, according to Bill, nobody really cares. Not that people are mean or that they don’t care about you as a person, but they don’t care about what you have to say unless it adds value to their lives. Think about it; how many people accepted your invitation to play Candy Crush? How many people joined your Network Marketing opportunity? How many people remember anything you said at your last presentation? How many people left a comment on your latest blog post?

I copied the following conversation from the book “Your Perfect Presentation” by public-speaking coach Bill Hoogterp and I read it every time I’m about to share content with my audience either on my website, in a meeting, when giving a presentation, or through any other means of communication;

nobody really cares

If you want your audience to care about you you have to “show them the money”. You have to grab their attention and give them something of value.

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I have one more part to this series; not sure what I’m going to name it yet but it will show you how to deal with difficult people.  I may call it “How to Deal With Haters”. Why? Because even when you get over yourself there will be plenty of people who will NOT be able to get over you!

If you’re reading this I love you.

If you have a question or comment leave it in the section below.

And, as always, thanks for stopping by!


RC Bonay

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8 Responses to What Are You Afraid Of? Part 3 Nobody Really Cares

  1. Craig says:

    There are a lot of people in the world that are always going to have negative things to say. If you take this onboard, it’s just going to create stress, and it will be harder to move forward. It’s not how hard you can hit, it’s how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. Thanks for the information, very valuable.

    • Roland Bonay says:

      “It’s not how hard you can hit, it’s how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.” I love this quote and I’m learning to take it to heart. Thanks for the comment!

  2. Steen Rasmussen says:

    Good article Roland and you have a really good point, no one listens if you do not say anything, I do not really like you describe that people really do not care what you have and it may be interested in is what people can get out of it, so if you only have value to you, other dont care about it

    • Roland Bonay says:

      Exactly! If you only write an article or video or whatever and it only has value to you then you have missed the boat! People will see this and they will avoid you like the plague. No one likes a selfish person (unless that person is them – LOL). Thanks for stopping by.

  3. Peter G King says:

    Very well written Roland, and your point is a valid one.

    It reminds me of a famous quote by Maya Angelou – “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

  4. Dona says:

    Great post, Roland! Who cares if nobody cares? I used to care. I used to be so nervous about speaking in public but now I say “who cares?” As a matter of fact, now I offer speakers my platform on which to speak and gain more exposure. This way speakers, authors, and direct sellers can share to massive audience. Thanks again,Roland, for a great post.

    • Roland Bonay says:

      Thanks Dona! I don’t know how much energy I’ve wasted over the years worrying about what people were thinking about me when I write or speak. Of course you have to care about what you write and say but if you’re doing the right thing and delivering great content and value to your audience you should not worry about how people perceive you…after all you’re just the messenger (just like some of the greatest people in the history of the world).

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